I've met many men over my years. They seem confident enough to not follow the crowd. It's only a short time before I discover that he is far from the man he wishes he was meant to be. Instead, he disguises his insecurity behind a tough, don't need anyone facade. This persona will lead him nowhere.
Shedding off the old
Who do people say that I am? is the wrong question. You've been asking who you are in light of what other people think you are or should be.
It is time to stop trying to be what people say you are and what your told a "real" man is.
Who am I?
Once you shed those unnecessary descriptions you so desperately try to live up to, the next step is to become who you were meant to be. And trust me when I say, it takes time to not only find yourself but to become strong enough to carry yourself with pride.
Invest in finding yourself now so that you don't remain lost later in life.