Better than a life coach!!
I'm a little older than the picture to your left, but it's pretty accurate. I hate to toot my horn, but at 58 I've been around the block a time or two. You don't have to know what that all entails. Below has some of that. What you do want to know is what that means for you as a businessman or businesswomen seeking inner balance, a shot of confidence for you as entrepreneur, hope for you the couple, and personal power for you the individual.
My Story, My Style
I was born in Borriken, better known as Puerto Rico and an Island once occupied by the Taino and the home of the Jibaro. I have lived most of my life here in the US. Love the Puerto Rican food still. And the pizza, too. In moderation, of course!
I have about 25 years--probably more but whose counting--of community service. Fifteen of those years came as hospice chaplain where the dying became my teachers for living. Words cannot explain what happens when you watch many--young and old--reach that end point so many of us prefer to avoid even talking about. For me, it set an important sensitivity to the brevity of life.
Experience alone isn't everything, I get it. But at this point, I bank on it more than education. Nevertheless, education has an important place. Apart from achieving Magna Cum Laude, I have also accumulated well over two decades of specialized studies, including two master degrees. One in counseling, the other I use for broad-based religion or spirituality. As counselor, I provide the obvious to help manage diagnostic symptoms so you can achieve and to add momentum to your business intentions with career consultation. As minister coupled with 58 years, I provide mentoring and teaching to nurture your soul. By the way, this includes your relationship to money. A third is yoga, which I learned in Rishikesh, India, to help you become aware of your body that you have to ignore to maintain the work pace. And, yes, yoga is for aging.
To succeed in anything you need more than education. You must know who you are, which involves being you weird little self. But by weird I mean presenting yourself strong in the face of a barrage of expectations that demand conformity. And if you wish to start a business, make room for much needed creativity, or just dream, dam it, you need inner muscle to be weird.
Then you need a set of clear goals and resilience to conquer or manage what could deter you. You know this, but so do many. Yet for some reason remain stuck in life. My experience and studies, and specialized skills have much to offer here, be it the investor, the entrepreneur, the couple with separate or collective ambitions, or the individual nearing retirement. My approach looks keenly into what actually stops you from achieving. And boy, can you be surprised. Let me explain.
I am convinced that we are governed much of the time by our unconscious. Some think differently, but they are pressed when we explore psychological patterns such as self-sabotage, getting involved in an abusive relationship that resembles the one before, having an affair while risking it all, just to mention the big ones. Then there are those secrets we never tell, surprising dreams we blow off, and hidden agendas we'd never confess. Yet the reason for digging, exploring, and analyzing this darker side of ourselves isn't to wallow in self-pity. Instead, the goal is to courageously and wisely handle those pieces that without notice often hinder our growth and success, be it in our personal lives, relationships, or our careers.
At the same time, the unconscious is a storehouse for creativity, discovering gifts and talents, and finding insights into long standing problems. To discover these transformational moments is a major reason why I look carefully at patterns, beliefs, symbols, paradoxes, and "the sentence behind the sentence."
On top of exploring the mystery of the psyche, I want to be real with you. What I sometimes say isn't popular. All too often, we look for what we want to hear. I give you tough love. Remember my hospice experience? Well...in truth, I realize we don't have lots of time. If we live until 80-years of age--not the unrealistic 130-year scale that insurances use on us--that's about 29,200 days. Not a lot. If you want to dream, now is the time. And to realize your goals, you must be open to honest feedback and put away the self-pity. As some of my hospice patients told me, "I don't have time for that s**t."
I leave you with William Ernest Henley, "I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul!"
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B.A. in Ministry at Southeastern College 1987
M.Div, Emphasis in Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary 1995
M.A. in Community Counseling at Argosy University 2011
Clinical Pastoral Education (2 1/2 years)
Hospice Chaplain (15 years)
Licensed Professional Counselor (since 2014)
Licensed Associate Professional Counselor (2011-2014)
6-mo. online American Institute of Vedic Studies (Dr. David Frawley)
10-day meditation Retreat in Varanasi, India
1-mo. Yoga Training for Certification in Rishikesh, India
Minister with the Universal Life Church